Do I trust my gut? Long post sorry

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So I'm supposed to be getting married next year put deposits down on everything saving for the final amounts etc however I've just got this gut feeling my partner is cheating.
Bit of history he has messaged his ex in the beginning of our relationship and another woman "friend" to meet up whilst we were trying to heal from the ex thing he told me he wanted to meet her because he was feeling depressed from the situation between us and needed to talk to someone (he's not seen this woman in years and didn't mention anything to me about his low mood) there was nothing cryptic in the messages but why would he not tell me he wants to meet up with her if all was innocent (I've never had a problem with him having female friends so its not that) then on top of all this when we first started talking to me he was also talking to another woman at the same time calling her his soul mate. 
Well this past year I thought we were great trust felt like it was built right up again and we got engaged booked the wedding etc but then lately he seems to refuse to get out bed with me and tells me to just go downstairs and he'll be there in a minute which is strange and abnormal for him. I woke him up yesterday from his Nightshift as he asked and I didn't leave the room until he got up as I'm suspicious of this well he got up got dressed so I left the room came downstairs expecting him to follow but nope 10 minutes later he came down.
Now this is what really has my gut churning I  had a dream he cheated so this morning I said to him you've cheated on me ... He sat there silent starring at me until I said in my dream last night to which he said well that's your brain not me . Surely this isn't a normal reaction

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Our guts are typically right… I would not be moving forward with this marriage until I was certain.

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I don't know why you would even wanna consider marrying him after how things started off.

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Always trust your gut. He got called out and had nothing to say? Sounds very suspicious. Normally you hear about people getting really defensive when called out but staying silent screams guilt to me because he didn't deny it. You gave him an out by telling him it was in a dream. Before you said that I guarantee he was trying to come up with a lie. I'd call off the engagement and reevaluate if staying with him is worth all that hurt. It sounds like a reoccurring issue that he can't be trusted. If he isn't faithful then why stay with him? All staying with him will lead to is more years of wasting your time and getting hurt when you could be finding real love with someone else who respects you. If the trust is already broken and gone then I would move on and try to focus on healing the damage he caused.

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You’ve had several reasons to not even accept the proposal. Girl, what are you doing? He’s obviously guilty as hell.

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It's not whether he is cheating or no. No one here knows for sure. It's about your lack of trust on the person you're marrying.

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I have had dreams before like that that have meant nothing. I think the biggest thing is: YOU DONT TRUST HIM internally. There was one time as newlyweds, my husband, me and a group of friends were going tubing. I was at the store getting some stuff and a girl that was a friend of a friend brought ice. We kind of knew her but not that well. I called my husband to let her in so the ice wouldn’t melt. No one else was there yet. When I got there, he had locked himself in the bedroom. I wondered why all day but then he told me later that when she got in she immediately took her cover up off and he thought that was weird and then she hugged him and he got weird vibes from the hug and if I had walked in, he would have felt not right so he wanted to make it exponentially clear he was not with her. 
I think about that day a lot. I was obviously really mad at the situation but I trusted his word and saw that he earnestly was thankful when I got home. Needless to say we didn’t see her anymore but that situation would have bothered me way worse if there was no TRUST. There’s gonna be times where you have to take your partners word for it and if you already don’t trust him in your gut it would be unwise to proceed w a commitment like marriage.

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Your gut is saying that because you don't trust him. He's giving you no reason to trust him. Better start cancelling those wedding plans.

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I’ll tell you one , I’ve had dreams of my spouse cheating , we’ve had some ups and downs . I know some say dreams are nothing but then again personally I feel like sometimes that are something. 
I get this gut feeling when it comes to relationships and 90% of the time , I’m right . If I were you , hold off on marriage until you’re certain. This completely shows there’s some unresolved issues that needs to be fixed before taking the next big step. You don’t want to be married and then feel like you made the wrong choice. Being married is being happy and certain about the life decision you’ve made. Don’t be married and have second thoughts. You’ll only bring yourself down from there. Hold off on marriage, get this problem situated first before moving on to the chapter of your life . Hope it turns out well for you, best of luck! ☺️

Do I trust my gut? Long post sorry

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