I’ve been with my partner for 16 years. We have 2 children and 1 on the way. We’ve had a fairly rocky relationship at times and have had ‘breaks’ but honestly I feel like things have got to the point where I don’t know if we should carry on or not.

Basically he’s always mostly pretty much done what he wants when he wants and his social life/pub has been the focus. Lately things have really hit a low. He does the bare minimum around the house and has been very impatient with the children. He bites my head off over the smallest things and has been going out numerous times a week. When he’s out he hardly answers his phone and never comes back when he says he will. I have no idea where he is or who he’s with or how to contact him.

It’s getting to the point where my eldest (7) is getting upset every time he goes out because he doesn’t think he’s going to see him. And this evening he left me and his children waiting in the car in a car park for almost an hour to pick him up and he wasn’t leaving so I came home with them coz wtf and he’s still out now 3 hours later.

My head is telling me I should end this relationship as he clearly has no respect for me or our family unit but my heart can’t get there.

He just always tells me I’m overreacting or blowing things out of proportion and blaming the pregnancy hormones but I don’t agree I think he’s out of order.

What do you think/what would you do if you were me?