Is this entrapment? Am I wrong for not pursuing any involvement ?

Back in June 2022 my ex ending the relationship by just leaving and blocking me. I didn't expect it at all. I of course wasn't ready for the relationship to end, especially not like it did. That said I "chased" him down for a few days until he finally talked to me after a few days of " talking " I finally accepted what it was.

Fast forward a few days ( mind you in this timeframe communication had been nonexistent) but fast forward a few days not even a week after I left, I found out I was pregnant. I let him know within hours of confirming.

( back story: we both said we didn't want any more children when we started dating in April 2021. In March 2022 we had a intimate conversation where I confessed to him that I was dreading the fact that I was getting older, and that certain women leave parts weren't going to be able to produce another child. Not saying that I wanted another child, but I was beginning to dread the inevitable of menopause)

So in the first week of me being pregnant I made a quick decision to terminate the pregnancy , but at the clinic I found it difficult for me to do. I notified him days later to let him know I was unable to do it. And for the next 14weeks I was back and forth with him on what to do. I just couldn't began myself to terminate.

I was severely depressed, indecisive, and craving affection attention support etc etc. And I turned to him for all of that selfishly.

This man had already moved on in life.

We made an agreement to " stay connected " he had terms and I had terms, and we met in the middle ish.

But the time and temporary attention he gave me wasn't enough. After a while I realized I wasn't okay with just being " cool" I wanted my relationship back.

After realizing that, I told him and he agreed to give me " my relationship " back.

Everything was cool, it felt like old times. I was pregnant and with the man I loved. SEEMINGLY , my relationship.

We went into therapy and everything.

But in therapy it came out that he thinks that I only kept the pregnancy to trap him and or because I was excited and wanted a child. He thinks it should've been easy for me to terminate.

Completely disregarding the fact that I was in a confuse, fragile state. Completely disregarding how he knows I suffer from loss.

Fast forward please I found out my relationship wasn't my relationship at all. He was still doing his thing on the side. So I ended everything and disconnected. He barely reached out for updates but he does and inform him.

But my question is, did I trapped him ??

Keep in mind that in the beginning of this pregnancy and throughout this pregnancy, I stated numerous times that I could do this by myself. He was free to not be involved etc etc. I've considered adoption as well. And he's aware, but refuses to sign over his rights.

For the past few weeks to month I've been doing everything on my own because I feel like including him and or opening up to him interferes with his life and entraps him into a situation he never wanted.

He didn't want me and he didn't want a baby.

So I feel like it's best to just say nothing

But again, did I trap him?

And if he feels like I did am I wrong for not including him further ?

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