Just need to vent 😪

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I just need to vent. My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years. In 2019 we bought a house and said we’d have it paid off in 5 years then we’d start trying to have kids. Side note-i can’t wait to be a mom and have wanted kids since the day we got married. But, 5 years is what he wanted and I agreed. August 2024 was go time if the house was paid for. Well, we got close to paying the house off (like 2 months away from paid off and ended up selling to buy a bigger house with land) but even when we were close to paying it off, 2 years early (so sept 2022), he was still stuck on the august 2024 date. I have been off BC for two years (not ttc, just personal reasons) and we’ve been just using pullout method. Two nights ago, for the first time in two years, he didn’t pull out it time. He didn’t panic or anything, he even made a couple comments about well you may get your wish haha, and I got a little excited, but that was short lived bc I had just got off my period two days prior and knew chances of getting pregnant from that slip up were very slim. So tonight we had sex again, and during I made a joke about his pullout game being weak now and he said I didn’t think you wanted me to pull out anymore. I said well I don’t, you know that. He said are you ovulating? I said i don’t know but i don’t think so, i haven’t been tracking it. Anyway, we keep going and what does he do but pull out. Tears immediately filled my eyes, bc I guess that glimmer of hope that we were about to start ttc came to mind when he made that comment. I thought he was serious. I just don’t get it. The new house won’t be paid for by Aug 2024, but that’s still when he’s stuck on starting to ttc. We are 30 and 27, financially stable and responsible, he is AMAZING with kids and loves them and he knows that there’s nothing more I want than kids. I just needed to vent bc I’m sad. when I ask what’s the hold up his response is just that we agreed on Aug 2024. Now I’m scared we’ll get to august 2024 and there will be another reason or setback. Sorry for the long post..just feeling discouraged and if you’ve been in the same situation, what did you do? Every time I bring it up he brushes it off