Idk what to do anymore 😢☹️

Lately my husband and I have been good and then we go bad again. I feel like he always gets bothered when we don’t get intimate. For valentines & my birthday he he didn’t get me anything. I feel like I have to remind him or let him know. Im a full time mom so at the end of the day I’m drained my day starts around 5:30-6 and ends until my last kid goes to sleep. I wish he would understand that part. I wish that I would stop telling him what to do for me like why can’t he understand me ! He used to be so different with me and now his cold like he doesn’t care about fixing things or talking like I’m tired of always being the person who wants to fix everything all the time. Idk what to do. 💔