Trying for over 1 year...Still nothing

My fiancé and I have been trying to get pregnant for over a year now. We never use protection yet we still are not having any luck. My mind plays tricks on me. I want to be a mommy so bad that my mind plays tricks on me and then I get discouraged when I take a test and it comes back negative. My fiancé is a smoker and is over weight. I am slightly over weight but want to lose weight. I'm just not sure what we are doing wrong and why we can't get pregnant. I'm not sure what to do to help us become pregnant. Any advice or tricks on how I can become a mommy would be great!! 
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Kr

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Kara where do you get the fertila tea? And what aromatherapy do you use for fertility?

Ka

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Hello! My husband and I have been trying for about the same time. Just recently I started doing more than just the baby dance. I am taking FertilAid for women, Cassava Root, folic acid, drinking FertiliTea, and have fertility aromatherapy all over the house. I also have a little pouch of herbs in my pillow case. They smell good. Haha, I have a cute little chart set up for ovulation. I track my basal temperature, any ovary pain, the ovulation LH strips daily, CM and I check my saliva in a microscope twice a day. When I do see that I'm ovulating, we do the deed with Preseed lubricant. It mimics CM and sperm can travel through it! My husband takes FertilAid for men. We both quit smoking so he should probably do that to up his sperm count. Losing weight would help, but we are both a little over weight. Not even close to obese but we have a little extra on our frames! Have you gone for a preconception check up to make sure you don't have any underlying problems like a funny cervix?