Question and tmi question

So today is my first day of my green fertility window days, we've been actively ttc for 7 months now with no luck, so my question is, is it best to BD everyday, or every other day? I read sperm count may not be as high BDing everyday.. My TMI question is that when we do BD I always feel like it all just comes right out, even when I lay there for awhile after.. I know some has to get in but could this be affecting it or am I just being paranoid? Lol help!