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I am TTC and we generally are good at having sex around the fertile period but the rest of the month it can be few and far between. 
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​I'm guessing I would just like to know if anyone else experiences this? We try to not to let the pressure of trying get to us but it does feel like we have to time it to my fertile days and the rest of the time feels a bit wasted!
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​Who said romance was dead eh?! 
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​Thanks in advance ladies x

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Thanks ladies. Its a combination of TTC stress and he also hurts as he really needs a circumcision but he is worried that if he has this it will put us back further.
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​I have tried to not say when I'm fertile and just try and make a move!

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I though I posted to this but it hasn't come up. Thank you ladies, this is actually the first site that any real woman who make sense post to. I think I just needed to realise I'm not alone and we all have a story, not something really discuss with my friends here as they all have children and conceived very quick
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​It is generally the stress of TTC but also he needs to be circumcised as it can be painful bless him but he thinks if he gets that now it will put us back further x

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I've read sperm tend to lose motility after 5 days. One of the problems we've been having is my fertile days seem to line up almost perfectly with the busiest times of the month for his job. That leaves him exceptionally tired and acting like it's a second job instead of something we want to do. I'm thinking if we don't succeed this month, I may request he take vacation for a couple of days next month during my fertile window.

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Yeah we have this.
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​We have never been like rabbits and now having sex 4-5 days in say 10 days is a lot for us.
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​We tend not to have sex between O and CD8 ish when we read it's good to clear the tubes and keep the man producing 'fresh' sperm...
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​Good luck ladies :-)

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Ugh, that sucks. We had to push off trying until this year because he needed major back surgery last year (2-level spinal fusion) and it takes a year to fully recover.

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We are the same way. Ironically, the sex during our fertile time was pretty equal to the sex we usually had before ttc (we usually only do it once a week). I do feel bad, but both our drives have gone down pretty significantly since turning 30...I was also diagnosed with ulcerative colitis and we hit a big drought during that time because I was soooo sick.

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This is an issue my hubby and I have had most of our relationship. First, it was due to his emotional issues, then due to his meds, which have side effects of inhibiting libido. It does seem a bit worse since we started TTC, but we've been talking about it to try and nail down the real worry, because he does want to be a dad. Have you tried talking through it to see if there's an underlying issue, or it's just the stress of TTC?

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