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I miss my abuser too. I regret leaving him. Waking up alone isn't each after you thought you'd found your "happily"-ever-after.I wake up crying often, not wanting to get out of bed. But then I remind myself of all the other things I'm missing out on as well, apart from the hugs and the kisses, I missing out on the punches that dislocated my jaw, I'm missing out on those black eyes that concealers could mask, I'm missing out on the regular choking, but most importantly, I'm missing out on the constant fear that anything I say or do may trigger the next attack.I hope you decide to leave him. Life won't be perfect, but it won't be as bad as it is now.

I am not sure if this thread is still open/active. But I am here to say anyone need someone to talk to feel free to reach out. I was in an abusive relationship for over ten years and only recently got out of it.

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Ive been in a domestic violence relationship for ten yrs. I don't have the strength to leave him he's all I want but im not happy .what to do hey.

I'm currently in an abusive relationship. I want to leave him but it's hard at the moment and I love him even though it has decreased a little but the love it's still there. He hasn't really done me any punches but he verbally abuses me. Last night he told me I look like a zombie and I'm ugly, I'm just tired of it, but I won't have financial support as I just had a baby in December. I'm hoping I make the right decision.

I was 17 when I met my ex husband preg at 18 as soon as I got married 21 the abuse started mentally physically emotionally financially and the controlling I didn’t have strength to leave he forced him self on me I had no family no where to turn I believed him when he said he would change and when he said he would start bonding with children he liked me having children so I would stay in doors having children took away having to deal with him he hurt me for many years but when my children started to see him abuse me and when he frightened the children that was it I was leaving took me a year to find some where I joined gym which he didn’t like I gained strength and i left his sorry ass for safety of my self and kids after 10 years of marriage he said I would never leave he said no one would take me on I was baggage he said he would never divorce me 4 lots of papers ignored ended up getting them served on him in court , he took me to court regarding kids contact this has been a 3 year battle in court and still no further forward he has abused the children I moved over border when he started stalking house and I met my wonderful husband who took on his children as his own and we have a 9 month old daughter and another on the way the control through courts is unreal the u fairness of the abuse not enough evidence dr notes social services not enough as we all know they do it when no one is around I will take this man down . I left with nothing he lived in marital home for 3 years not paying mortgage had house repossessed had bailiffs come take car away in front of kids had to change kids schools he packed in his 45l job a year so he didn’t have to pay maintenance started working cash in hand justice system is so wrong

I have been in 2 abusive relationships and the 1st was 2 years on and off and the second was 7 months on and off. The last one ended about 1.5 months ago and he left me every month and was the one to end it the last time as well. I recently even wrote in my journal 'Is it better to be in an abusive relationship than being alone?' I do know the more I live in reality instead of fantasy that it is better I am single than being in an abusive relationship where his words were extremely hurtful and his physical abusive left me in fear. Remembering the physical abuse where choking, grabbing of my arms, grabbing my face, holding me down, and throwing me down like a rag doll was normalized.. Also reaching out to the 'Rape and Abuse Crisis Center' helped because I know see a therapist specialized in abuse and am also in Art Group where we create art about the topic of the week and then express what we created. I am grateful I am finally getting help with the abuse part of my life. My therapist recommended I read 'Why does he do that' but Lundy Bancroft and I am only a chapter in but I would recommend every women who is or was in an abusive relationship to READ this! 'In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship.' 💞

Does "domestic abuse" apply to being abused by family as well??

I was in a domestic abuse relationship for just shy of 2 years I got out and ended up marrying my best friend we’ve been married for 11 years. I honestly was blinded by his on again affection and off again affection with my ex he also made empty promises and promised to change but one day I realized he never was going to change and that’s when I called my now husband and explained to him my situation, long story short he got involved and his friends and rescued me and brought me back to their place to stay. Now many years later I realized my ex was the problem not myself. And if anyone needs to talk I’m available.

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