Feeling like I can't express myself

So my partner and I are great together. Up until there's a conflict and I want to to express my feelings about said conflict. He always misinterprets what I'm saying & just today he told me that I annoy him "by starting arguments". But honestly, it's not that I'm starting an argument, it's that I'm trying to convey how I feel but he takes it all wrong. 
-SN: do not advise me to leave him. You do not leave people you love over things that both people can attempt to resolve. This generation always thinks you leave someone for every little thing. I just want some womanly advice.