Extended family and the kid ?

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Every time I visit family/extended family I dread the questions of "do you want kids? Do you have kids? You've been married for awhile when should we expect kids? I always answer "we are trying" which sounds too tmi when you think about it, but what I really want to do is word vomit all over them about how personal of a question that is. How do we combat this while educating our loved ones that sometimes it just doesn't happen that easily?

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I struggle with this too...I usually joke about it or try distraction. Wish people would back off

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I always say, "when God wills it" that usually shuts them up. I've told no one, "we're trying" because you're right it is too personal. Although, today we were at DH's cousin's house for a baby shower and his cousin, the daddy to be leans in real close and whispers, "You're next." Which he probably said to every non-mom there but  I just grinned and said "Your lips, God's ears, my friend." He laughed.

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Love your phrase 'word vomit'! At the moment I just smile vaguely and say 'maybe' or 'we'll see' but if I were braver I'd say 'what a personal question, why do you need to know?' Or 'when his sperm and my egg actually manage to get together and implant in my uterus' or 'when I stop having recurrent miscarriages'- that would probably stop questions from them! I know people mean well and it's partly small talk but come on, it's on my mind enough without reminders at every turn.

Extended family and the kid ?

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