Hmm ... Preferences, i guess

So I am a big girl with big girls. My husband prefers skinny girls with no boobs. He says he loves me no matter what but we rarely have sex, I catch him checking out flat chested women, and I found porn on the computer of girls with no boobs. I prefer guys that are bigger down there but I don't rub that in his face. When I try to talk to him about it, he gets mad because of my insecurities. How do I handle this?