Chemical pregnancy

I just went through a chemical pregnancy late Wednesday night. SO and I didn't know we were pregnant until it happened, we weren't trying. I'm thankful it happened so early on to be considered a chemical pregnancy because for some reason that's easier for me to cope with than a further along miscarriage. I don't know how to feel, I feel like my pain isn't valid because we didn't even know until it was too late. I'm struggling to cope emotionally and physically. I guess I'm just looking for advice and support. This was our first time being pregnant.