I think I'm getting tired, maybe I've tried for so long and now I don't care?

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I love my boyfriend, he means a lot to me, we've been together 2 years going on 3. We've had our rough points, like any relationship, we argue and what not. We have not talked for periods of time, and just a lot. Now we have been good for a while, but now I just don't know how I feel, because it's like I try so hard for him to spend more time with me and stuff and it's like he doesn't get it. I mean he works but that's not all the time, and it's like when I have time, he doesn't because he wants to be with his guys, like I'm fine but he's always with them we never spend time. If he's not with them I don't know what he's doing.. & we won't talk all day, or he will text me and say "wyd" I'll respond and he won't respond when I say wyd.. Or he might call me late as hell at night, or when we are on the phone he will say "let me call u back" and he never does... He just acts like he really doesn't give a fuck and I just don' know anymore. I'm getting tired of trying and he puts no effort in.. Like man it's hurting me lately... I just don't know, and I mean I've talked to him and talked to him he just says nothing... He's acting weird what do I do man??? I keep trying!!!!

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How old is he? He sounds like a typical teenage boy. Then again, some grown men still act like teenage boys. If he is, in fact, a teenager...having "a talk" with him will just send him running. Guys want what they can't have. Go do you and ignore him for a while. If he wants you he will notice and start vying for your attention. If he doesn't notice, move on!!   Always remember: for the most part, boys are dumb and must be handled accordingly ;)

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If talking to him about this goes nowhere or he brushes off your concerns (especially is he uses those bullshit gas lighting words like "dramatic," "overreacting," "too emotional" etc) then no pleading on your part is going to fix it. He doesn't seem invested in the relationship--he may even be purposefully neglecting you because he doesn't have the stones to break it off himself. I'd put all your concerns in the open, and if he downplays or ignores you, just let him fall off the face of the earth. You're 20, you have better things to do than torture yourself over somebody whose interest is only lukewarm.

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Thank you all, but it does suck, I'm 20 and he's 22. It's no point in acting like this, but I feel like he still has very childish ways about himself. I could tell him I'm feeling extremely sick or something and he won't respond to me or anything. I'm just like, what if something bad was happening, he doesn't even care enough to find out why I'm feeling how I feel. I'm really just drained, when we do get time after weeks to see each other, it's for about 3 hours maybe 4 and we barely do anything, and we might just have sex. & honestly, I don't even feel like I ever want sex anymore, I'm tired of it honestly, I'm tired of being around him & I know it's because he just doesn't see, I want more from him and he does nothing. He's the type to never show his feelings, so talking about it does nothing, he will say I'm just a cry baby! It pisses me the fuck off.

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Let me also add, we live 10 mins away from each other and both have cars. & our own places... Makes no sense?

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Also, if he was cheating on me or anything I wouldn't even be the wiser because he just doesn't come off as that kind of guy, sex and shit doesn't interest him that much. I don't go through his phone and he doesn't go through mine. I'm really getting tired, so I'm honestly about to shut out on him.?

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If it were me I'd try to sit down and tell him exactly how you feel, no one should feel lonely in a relationship, you guys have to communicate!! You can't give your all to him and him give you nothing in return, you seem like a good woman, and if he can't see that and rather be with his friends trust me someone else will! One day he'll realize what he had and it'll be too late! Start treating him how he does you and see how he reacts! My mother always tells me you don't have to chase love!!

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Wow! That's so crazy because I'm going threw really similar things with my boyfriend and I constantly tell him if he don't get his stuff together and act like he wants to be with me then idk what to tell him..He then says things will change and get better and I'm still waiting on that from him I mean it is and it will slowly but surely happen if he really cares about you.. Often I give my boyfriend a choice to choose either me or the other bs and if when he chooses me I tell him he needs to act like he wants to be with me then,, but I wouldn't give up because you never know when you can find somebody else like him I know times are rough right now but things will get better if you really have faith in him...Good luck

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You Should Try Having A Talk With Him Because .. Thats Not Right. I Would Leave If He Continued To Do That. I Can't Have A Relationship Like That.. Its Important He Starts Putting In Effort Or It Might Just Be A Good Idea To Leave & Have Him Realize What He Lost..

I think I'm getting tired, maybe I've tried for so long and now I don't care?

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