How late is too late?

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1st post (yay!), apologies if I'm asking a repeat question, but here goes...

I'm 32 yrs old, bf is 33. We've been together for about 6 years and we've decided to wait until May 2016 to get married and try to start a family (he's getting his PhD and God-willing May '16 is when he'll finish *everybody cross your fingers*). At that point I'll be 34 trying to conceive our 1st.

For the past 3 years or so my Lady Doctor has been having the "if you want to have kids, you should start now" talk with me. It's getting frustrating and has me really freaked out that I won't be able to actually get pregnant when the time comes. I instantly clam up and just nod my head at her...too freaked out to ask deeper follow-up questions. Not to mention the pressure from friends and family about when we're going to take these next steps in our relationship. It's causing me a lot of worry.

Anybody else in a similar situation or waiting to conceive? Are we setting ourselves up for failure by doing it this way? Are there any tests I can take or anything I can do now to make sure my parts are in working order?

Appreciate your advice & help!

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I am 34, almost 35; husband is 39. I have multiple degrees, he has been working for over 20 years in the tech industry, and we live in a very expensive city, so work was our focus for a long time. I freaked a bit about my age, but I had two different doctors tell me that I was "young" and that I had plenty of time. Many of my friends didn't have kids until late 30's and early 40's. A good friend is having twins at 46.

You have time. You have worked hard and thought about how you want to plan your life. Good for you! Ignore everyone else and do what you think it right. Good luck!

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I've gotten pregnant on my first try with both my kids @31 and 33. I do have friends that took a long time or needed fertility help, but it might be worth it to get your ducks in a row first. Oh and I suggest getting a dr you feel comfortable talking to, because in pregnancy you have to discuss all sorts of uncomfortable topics.

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I read an article that basically said your odds of getting preg at 37 are almost the same as at 27, the difference being 1 day as in, at 27 you can get pregnant 3 days before ovulation but at 37 you would need to be 2 days before. It was more complicated than that and I wish I had a source but basically it was saying the stats on fertility decreasing in the late 20s are outdated and with modern healthcare you are definitely able to start a family well into your 30s

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I think ideally, our bodies would love it if we could get pregnant in our teens or twenties, but the right time for anyone is: whenever YOU're ready. I'm 34 and just got my first bfp, so don't think you will be too old- plenty of women get pregnant in their forties, so even if it takes awhile, you've got time.

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Switch doctors. I am in the Northeast and every doctor I've asked up here has had the same response - early to mid 30s is a GREAT time to start having kids. Some even say ideal. I am 34, pregnant with my first. Only one doctor gave me the "geriatric pregnancy" bullshit and he was a manipulative asshole ex-boyfriend who I would NEVER take medical advice from, despite his education. Find a new doctor!

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I had the same experience here in the northeast. We started TTC when I was 33. We had trouble and consulted a fertility doctor right around when I was turning 34 and he commented how "easy" a case I would be because I was so "young" which was nice to hear because I felt like our trouble was because I was old! But I guess they're used to 40 year olds coming to them, so in comparison I was young. We got pregnant on our 4th iui, I switched to a regular ob who also commented how "young" I was. One of my coworkers is 29 and also pregnant and has the same ob - and the OB asked her why she was getting pregnant so young!

I do think it's a good idea to get your fsh, amh, etc. checked to make sure there's no reason for you to start trying earlier. The problem with waiting is that you often then expect to get pregnant right away and it doesn't always work like that!

Good luck!!

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I'm 34 (August bday) and using the Glow app, we got pregnant our first month. I was worried BC of my age and I donated my eggs 6 times in my early 20s. We got married at the courthouse this summer and will have a recommitment ceremony in place of our wedding. And now our baby will be a part of that!
My sister tried fertility treatments for a few years but once she was off, she got pregnant at 38. 
Everyone's body is different. Good luck!

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Don't worry about. Have a child when you're ready to, not when you feel pressured in to it. The healthier you are, the more likely to conceive. We conceived ours on first try - I'm 6w and just turned 34.

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If you've had normal periods and are overall healthy, I wouldn't sweat too much. Just keep track of periods and fertile windows. If you've had irregular periods or have other health issues, it may have some hindrance.  My husband is also finishing his PhD, which is why we are just now getting pregnant!  Bless you, I know the agony! ;). Good luck to you!

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Had my son at 34. Ttc #2 at 37. (I'll be 38 on Jan. 3)

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