When a man gives you anal. first you have to relax the woman by massaging her ND oil always helps to and making her feel comfortable. I wish all men knew this but sadly they think about them self before relaxing the other person. Which drives me crazy cause its never the other way around. My husband never thinks about my needs in bed I feel like he's just going through mixs feeling which sucks cause it not that exciting anymore. And I'm to the point we're I just give up cause what's the point. I love anal but he does not want to give it to me which kills everything in the bedroom. Some times I move fast by tieing the knot before spending for time to see his likes and dislike. but he not what I though I wanted...