Judging myself if i become a stay at home mom

Clari • Pregnant with miracle baby
 Everyone keeps asking me what type of mother will i be and will i be staying at home or when will i go back to work/school and i honestly dont know yet. Did i mention my baby is not even born yet and im a first time mom  but if i do deside to be a (s.a.h) mom why should i feel like a bad wife or. Woman instead of working ? What is so horrible about being a mother instead of  out in the field  everyone makes it seam like being a stay at home mom is like u gave up on being a provider for ur kids  does anyone feels this pressure from family and friends ?