Dreaded topic

Okay so this is seriously an uncomfortable situation .. But.. My mom never really told me where to shave down there and how often.. For the past 5 years I've shaved everything and now have to keep up constantly to keep fresh and kept up. However, about 2 months ago I started shaving around my butt(hole) 
Because my boyfriend wanted to try anal... Now I find myself having to always shave there because of the way it grows back.. Stubby hard hair instead of soft like it used to be. Who can help me? I wish I could reverse it!!!