Looseness down there

Okay ladies...some of us end up a little loose from having a baby. Some dont. Unfortunately I had a very hard labor. My baby who is now 4, ripped me down there and now I don't feel tight like before. I know it will never be exactly the same as before but when I have intimacy I feel bad because I'm loose and I'm embarrassed about it. I can feel but not like I wish. I've tried Kegal exercises and they helped a little. But...cmon they're annoying and they aren't showing awesome results as my cut is healed but still there. It's like the skin never sealed back together. Do you guys have any recommendations? I'm so desperate for a solution to this.