Help 🆘

I had sex with my hubby and my labia swelled and bleed a little it was like losing my virginity again when we use lube I can't feel him or reach an orgasm but when we don't it feels like I lose my v card every time he's rather thick and I don't know what to do have painfull sex or no orgasm. We have tried ky jelly foreplay nothing helps anyone have any ideas.