Should I have waited?

Question

So I am 14 years old. I just moved to little rock Arkansas and I have been here around 5 months ago. So a couple weeks ago I had lost my virginity to this guy I barely knew. He told me I was cute and that he wanted to sleep with me and get together after. He came to my house and I did the deed. He hasn't talked to me since and last night he wanted to come over and "chill". What should I do?(please comment). I haven't told my mom yet and I don't know if I should? Should I have done it or waited?

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You can't trust boys they'll tell you things you wanna hear and take advantage of your vulnerability and you'll regret it if you just have reckless sex with random boys who tell you youre cute I mean you don't necessarily have to tell your mom but she will find out mothers know because they went through the same things as you did believe it or not but focus on you and what you want in life instead of stupid boys who just care about sex

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You need to talk to your mom about this. I am 15 and I personally think 14 is too young. How old was he? Don't sleep with someone if they call you "cute" want to have sex and then "hook up" afterwards. He just wanted to have and lied to you. Now I'm still a virgin. My bf and I r both virgins and still waiting maybe for that one day. I'm completely inexperienced in this field but that was just my opinion.

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A many of guys will say anything to get in your pants. And once they do that is the only time you will hear from them unless they want sex again. The bad part is there are so many disease out there now and they are probably not going to tell you they have one. So please talk to your parents

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I lost my virginity at 14. I wish I would have waited now that I'm 20 and acctually with someone that I see a future with. But at the same time I made my mistakes and I wouldn't have been able to find this guy now if I didn't go through all the bad ones.

Advice: DO NOT fall for guys who tell you you're special and constantly try to sleep with you. If you tell  them no or say you want to wait and they get angry or keep trying to pressure you then they are not a good guy.

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I lost my virginity to someone I barely knew too. And I didn't regret it at first but now I do. It hasn't ruined my life, it didn't ruin my future relationships, the only thing it did was make.me realize that sex can affect your emotions and mental well being. What's done is done. You can't go back, you can only move forward. If you like him, and he likes you, then try dating, and leave the sex out of it for a while. You're young and young people make choices that they probably wouldn't have if they were older. Just have a positive attitude and move forward with your life. As for telling your parents, that's your choice.

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I refuse to say what you should have done, what's done is done. It ain't always gonna end right, but for future reference, you are under no obligation to share your body with anyone. Especially this 2nd time he's asking for. Its clear he believes you are an individual who likes having free sex (which there's nothing wrong with, if he's another kid.). BUT if you are NOT trying to be a free lover to any and all, you should say no this time and any time after. Keep in mind that there is no problem with you having sex again if you are safe and its what you want, but free sex has its consequences. Is this boy someone you WANT to exchange energy with? Do you want to absorb the energy HE puts forth in the world? Do you want to deal with the consequences if he gets you pregnant? Do you want him having knowledge to share of you with other kids at school? Feel free to tell him he blew it--you only hang with respectful young men who are friends with you. Maybe he likes you and doesn't know how to show it--I have no clue. But you've got some thoughts to meditate on. If you feel safe/comfortable, talk to your mom. I lost my virginity at 16, and my mom read translated my diary from its code and found out lol, but I ended up marrying the guy so life's strange with many paths. No one can say its wrong--it happened. But i urge ypu to take the benefits of being a kid as long as you can 😜 Best of luck ♥

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Yeah you should have waited but don't be hard on yourself and don't see him either if he wanted to do it that soon he's bad news. Everyone makes mistakes me and you both don't at all regret or put yourself down for doing it though because it happened and you can't go back in time

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Don't worry about it, it already happened there's nothing you can do about it now. If you're feeling bad about it just don't hangout with him again.

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