Porn kills love. Real love. But real love kills porn.

My boyfriend was addicted to porn for many years. But he's been clean for about a year now, by the grace of God! (And although I didn't go down that road, I used romance novels and movies as "emotional porn" for many years too.)

God got him (and I) out of that mess, and I'm so thankful!! But (I'm gonna focus on his story since we're talking about that kind of porn) his brain has been "re-wired" by all those years of learning to view women as objects and devaluing sex. He didn't understand what he was getting into (he was pretty young) at the start, but now he is very aware. He has been fighting against porn and lust so faithfully though! He was already fighting it when we met, so I know it wasn't just for me. Apparently it can take at least 2 years to "re-wire" the brain back to health... so we've still got a long way to go. But I am SO proud of him. What a man.

We are waiting until marriage to have sex, and we are so excited for it to be redeemed for him. Because it is a beautiful gift from God, meant to be shared by a husband and wife.

Yes, it is hard for me sometimes to know that his past includes many images/videos of naked women who are not me. And he regrets it - he would love to have a clean past. But he has asked God for forgiveness and he is forgiven completely (1 John 1:9)!! And is covered by the righteousness of Jesus Christ!

Sorry if that was long... I'm kinda passionate about this ;) I hate the stuff for how it's changed him - but I love him for how he fights! And one day he will be perfectly pure and clean... at the marriage feast of the Lamb.

(If any of that didn't make sense to you, feel free to ask!)

Wait for a real man, ladies. They're out there!

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