Loving yourself

I get confused when a women doesnt love hersekf or her body , i feel i order to love someone else for what they have or look like you have to love yourself 10xs more to feel confident and comfortable in sex and relationships because i feel like thats when all the untrusting happends because a women feels that the man wants more because sye feels she isnt enough if your confident about you then He will like you more for being so comfident because no one wants a low self esteemed women doubting herself