Fighting with SO eve before c section

Melissa
I need to vent a bit...I am scheduled for a c section tomorrow morning and my partner is working until about midnight. We have had many an argument and discussion about visitors after the baby. Well, I didn't want anyone up while we were in the hospital (family and friends out of state) and we finally compromised on his parents coming up while I'm in the hospital but I asked specifically for the first day as a family of three. He seemed to agree and said his mom was coming up tonight but we wouldn't see her. She dropped by unannounced after I got home from work, which led me to ask my partner to make sure to tell them to call before coming to the hospital. I didn't want them coming tomorrow. He basically flipped out on me and continues to claim that I hate his parents which isn't true. None of my family is even coming!! Anyway, I just feel like my needs aren't being attended to at all, and I'm alone and anxious about all of this as it is. Guess I'm just looking for some support. 
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I'm sorry you are having such a stressful night!  Make sure you let the nurses know your wishes as well. They will be great advocates for you. Best wishes for tomorrow and congrats in advance!!

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Melissa • Apr 28, 2015
It's difficult though when your partner wants the visitors.

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Gibbeanski • Apr 28, 2015
Agreed! Especially about the nurses. I had a nurse tell me that they will gladly help keep visitors out, but put it in a nice way. "She really needs her rest, so why don't you come back at XYZ time?". 😊

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Melissa • Apr 28, 2015
Thanks :)

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I should probably add that my parents died when I was a teenager, and I know I'm very emotional about becoming a parent without them. I'm trying very hard to be reasonable with my partner. And for some reason he can only see this as me having something against his parents.