So tired of SO being an ass

My husband has anger issues. And he won't accept it. And it really upsets me, but when I try to point it out to him or even express the slightest bit of "can you not act that way," he throws it back at me and says "leave me alone" or "just shut up" or turns it on me and says I do the same thing. He just refuses to acknowledge that it's him. He's truly one of the most arrogant people I've ever met.