Me and My SO just had an argument , and as always he throws things in my face and says things like dont be a statistic and oh i dont wanna live with you but when we are normal hes the one thats hovers me what to do?

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And im pregnant 8 weeks and 2 days :/ i wanna work out for my little family but he can be very serious and rude and i hate it because im happy and jolly especially pregnant

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My honest opinion is that you don't have a healthy relationship. Its fine to have disagreements, but you need to have good communication and discuss "I'm upset, because -----" & "----- is what I need to see from you to fix the problem". Throwing things in your face & threatening to not want to live together or be with you isn't a good way to handle conflict. 
As far as what you should do? You should take a good look at how you feel about this man. Is he someone you feel improves your life, or brings you down more often than not? Staying with him for your child's sake almost never works out for the best. If you love him & feel he does or could improve your life with some work (because it doesn't sound like he does right now, from the small amount of info given), then start figuring out how to improve this fault in your relationship, but if you feel it is going to continue this way, sadly, you may need to walk away. 💔

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When friends talk to me about problems like that I just tell them to think as if their daughters were in that same situation. 
Of course you would want them out of that, hate the guy & would be sad for them for allowing a guy to treat them like that, especially while prego. There's a family member that loves you and would be hurt to find out that you are going through this.
Now it's not just you who will go through this, it's your preciuse little baby too, Iv heard that your baby also feels what you feel and I don't think it's fair for the baby.
You & your baby deserve better! If He doesn't appreciate you someone else will.

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I wouldn't take it to heart being guys get just as nervous as women, but they seem to freak out more. With our 1st child, my husband hovered over me so bad. I couldn't even carry a basket of clothes without him taking them out of my hands. He was that way with all 3 of my pregnancies. 
If you feel it's more than that and if he acted that way before u got pregnant, maybe you should send him off for a night or two and let him feel what it's like without you and your unborn baby. That might very well put him in check and he might acknowledge how he is behaving and realize he don't want to be without y'all.

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And no rude comments i just want advice or a vite

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My parner does the same when we fight dont take it to heart every one says things in a fight they dont mean

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Was it like this before you got pregnant?

He sounds freaked out and it doesn't sound like he knows how to manage his emotions. There's a book called 'The Expectant Father' that addresses male emotions throughout the pregnancy.

It's something that ppl don't really talk about but it's a huge change for dads just the way it is for mums. The book deals with anger, resentment, jealousy, fear etc. and gives him a game plan for financial planning and tells him what to expect during different stages and let's him know what you need and how to be supportive for you.

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What is "don't be a statistic" supposed to mean?

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It's not healthy or normal for anyone to say such negative things when they fight. You both need to learn how to communicate effectively. There's a book (I don't remember the name) about effective communication especially in relationships. It tells you how to avoid that type of talk. It's simple to alter your words. It makes a world of difference. Again, he could be scared or nervous. It's natural for people to feel like that. Talk to him about working on it together. Although I don't believe people should stay together and endure negativity for their children. But I also don't think people should just give up without putting effort into it. These days a lot of people see most things in life as disposable and replaceable. Good luck and congratulations.

Me and My SO just had an argument , and as always he throws things in my face and says things like dont be a statistic and oh i dont wanna live with you but when we are normal hes the one thats hovers me what to do?

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