Can you do college and still make it on your own? I need to vent and encouragement😢

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So I went to tell my parents I wanted to get married with my boyfriend. Yet they think the idea is not mine and I'll be on welfare if I do. To be honest there are a lot of issues but I love him and he has a job and makes enough for his an apartment and bills of course with my help. However, when telling them thy flipped and so it as an threat when we said we could have just done it own our own. But idk I really had enough and regardless if I get married or not I dont want there help at all. Cause I don't want to owe them anything and prove to them I'm actually a strong person who can handle things and make it. Idk  I kinda now put in a place I don't know anymore and want to be on my own. My boyfriend parents say I can buy their car off them and I'm planing to get another job and work on campus to make it cheaper. I wanna figure me out. My brother and sister didn't finish college and at least I was trying to do the right thing and leave the house married. I'm sorry guys I need to vent I'm so lost.

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I'm 19 and my boyfriends 20. We moved out onto our own when I was 18 and he was almost 19. Figure out if you will have enough money for your insurance and gas. Rent and utilities. Groceries (You don't need cookies and ice cream and all that. That will only take money away from what you could put toward other bills.) You need to learn to budget you want to have enough money in the bank incase your car breaks down. Make sure you have a steady job. Don't buy things you can go without until you do learn to budget. Get Netflix or Hulu, not cable. Me and my boyfriend have lived by these rules and a year and a half later we know how to budget and we have a bigger apartment, two trucks, a muscle car, crotch rocket and two dirt bikes. We have money to put into these toys with money left over to have fun with. And I start college in the fall. As long as you know what your doing you should be fine. Just don't get in over your head. If you have any other questions just let me know.

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So here's the deal. If the two of you get married, FAFSA will give you a higher loan and grant money if you're both in school. At WSU, my husband actually got scholarships because of his grades and that we were married.

We lived off of student loans and grants for the 1st two years of our marriage. He's since graduated with honours and has a fabulous mechanical engineering degree and job with the Dept. of Defense.

I was studying to be an accountant, but switched to nursing. Eventually that nursing degree will be put towards a doctorate in Obstetrics and gynecology.

Even if your marriage doesn't work out you can still stay together for the added financial benefits and then part ways post graduation.

We just celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary, we got married on our 2nd anniversary of dating. My parents refused to speak to me when I got engaged, Oma threw a fit and then they paid for our wedding. My godmother teases us and says that when he's 101 and I'm 100 with a huge brood of children, grandchildren and great grandchildren we'll still be in the honey moon phase.

Whatever you decide, talk to your boyfriend about your goals, hopes, financial goals and children. Create a post marriage financial plan and life plan so you're both on the same page

My last tip is DO NOT apply for FAFSA until you are married, should that be what you chose to do. They will not let you change your marital status once you have filed, unless it is under extreme circumstances.

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My husband's parents had the same reaction when we wanted to move in together while still in college. It's definitely harder but I love the independence! Now both of our parents are really proud of us and now they even want grandchildren and we're still in college!

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When we got married we were both still in college. Luckily, we were both on scholarship, but that wasn't enough. We had to sacrifice and cut spending, and we both had jobs. We didn't have any kids while in college (got pregnant right after graduation). We were never homeless and we never had to live off of instant noodles.
YOU CAN DO IT!

It's tough, but marriage brings so much happiness that it's worth it!

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I'm 23 and have been on my own since I was 18! It's a little challenging at first but you'll get it and be just fine!

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I did college all in my own. It was tough but do-able and SO nice to be separated financially and emotionally from family. We actually got along better with some space. Here's the secret: if you make finishing college your goal, you have to make going and doing well no matter what your #1 priority. It needs to be 100% non-negotiable. It can pay off big if you take advantage of it, but if you half ass it it can blow up in your face bigtime. You're strong enough to do it if you're willing to commit to it.

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First things first make a budget. Include rent, utilities, groceries, and your regular bills. I would do some major hunting on apartments that you can afford. Dont leave the house unprepared. Have a job before hand.

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Things are very much different here, if my dad kicked me out I'd be homeless as student payments isn't enough for rent anywhere (let alone other bills) (I'm very thankful he didn't when I came out). If you have a roof over your head, and something to write on, then you are fine.

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I've been in a similar situation with my parents. But instead of marrying, it's literally doing anything they dislike, which includes marrying.

I've had to learn to keep my head down, but that's also because I have at least three more years of school, including a master's program to slog through. I can't afford to take the risk.

But, if your degree program is affordable, and you can figure out a way to finish as fast as possible, it's feasible.

My mother put herself through college all the way up through a master's program. Granted, she graduated in 1990 and tuition is waay more costly now. She also said it was incredibly difficult to do, even then.

Can you do college and still make it on your own? I need to vent and encouragement😢

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