D&C vs medical management advice?

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My worst fear was confirmed last night: at 11wks 3days, we found out that our little baby had died at 8wks 3days.
​I now have to decide if I want to have the medication and pass the baby 'naturally' (which is only 80%effective), or if I want a D&C. I'm leaning towards the D&C because I just want it over, it also seems like you bleed for about a week after, but the medication can take 3 weeks, and may end up in a D&C anyway. 
​Advice? What is the procedure/recovery like for each? 
​My first pregnancy ended in an early natural miscarriage. This is my second. I feel like there's no point trying again.

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Brie...
Thank you so much for your kind words. And I'm so sorry for you too. 
I will be asking my doctor to check progesterone levels if I ever get pregnant again. 
I don't know how long my hcg levels will take to return to normal...I'm still testing positive today. 
Unfortunately I seem to have nothing but time at the moment, so nothing to do but dwell on what could have been, and what I might have done. (I'm a teacher and finished for the summer) I need to find some sort of project...that isn't conception and pregnancy! 😔 xx

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I've had two natural mc and the one where I was further along (9w) was exponentially more physically painful. Went into labor, lost a lot of blood, dehydrated, had to be admitted to the hospital. If I ever have another, I will absolutely request a D&C. You already have so much to go through emotionally. But it's certainly a personal choice. So sorry for your loss!

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I was 14 weeks(Jan 7,2015)  when I had my medical D&E. I was devastated but it's what was best for me & my body. I gave up on trying bc I didn't understand why me outta all the women in the world that don't deserve kids who can have them then less than 2 months later(March)  I found out I was pregnant

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I found a d&c was easier on my body than a natural mc, particularly as you are quite far along. So sorry for your loss.

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So sorry for your loss, I had 2 natural miscarriages, one at 8 weeks, one at 9 weeks then opted for a d&c the third time at 10 weeks. The d&c was definitely the easiest, yes it's awful being in the hospital but it's over with quickly & the bleeding afterwards is more period like than miscarriage bleeding. I found my body recovered much quicker after the d&c as well. Good luck & hope you recover quickly. X

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So sorry for your losses. You have to trust your instincts on what is right for you. Personally I would do a D&C. (I have done a lot of research because I'm high risk for miscarriage.) The medication sounds like it can cause a lot of cramping/contractions and bleeding which can continue for up to a month. And only 85% effective as you know. I would hate to go through all that and still end up with a D&C. Plus, I don't think I could emotionally handle all the waiting and anticipation of expelling the clots and tissue. Some people consider the medication "natural" but it seems unnecessarily painful to me, and I admit I have a low tolerance. I'd rather get the experience over with and move on. But that's me. You have to do what feels right to you.

Best of luck. Try not to give up hope. There are many happy success stories here of women who finally gave birth. Hugs to you.

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I found out I was having a miscarriage at 10 weeks and decided to have a natural miscarriage. Just depends on how comfortable you feel with going with a d/c which I wasn't comfortable with. Baby passed about a week later. I've had two miscarriages in a row, I'm now pregnant at 16w4d with a healthy baby. Don't give up hope. I know it's difficult, I thought there was no way I was going to be able to have a baby but here I am. Third times the charm! I'm so sorry you are going through this though

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At 11 weeks, I went natural, i was in so much. I was having strong cramps i couldn't move i was in intense pain. My bleeding was too much. I actually ended up in the emergency room because i started to black out... Natural isn't alway the right way to go. Only like 80% go completed woth out medical assistance. But remember every pregnancy is different.

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Ps keep in mind as someone that dealt with major depression n suicidal thoughts my whole life these feelings will pass!!! You will be ready to try again you will be able to smile again n  feel happy! This is now 😔but the sun definitely  will come out tomorrow 💔💔💔💔 xoxoxo ps I'm always here if you wanna talk!!

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I'm so sorry Liz I can't imagine what you must be feeling! I would say d&c it makes it lol happen quicker feel better hope that the emotional pain passes quicker then you may think possible at the moment😔

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