Should I return this gift?...

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My dad has never been much involved in my life in any way other than financially as he works in London as a manager and makes a lot of money a year. So for him to buy me a £130 all singing all dancing baby swing (suitable for use up to 6 months) was not a huge surprise and will not have been a big purchase to him. However, what we really need is a cot mattress and as we don't have a lot of money and I don't think that such a fancy (and large) swing (we live in a very very small house so it would be in the way...) is a necessity whereas our daughter needs a mattress as soon as possible and if I were to return the swing, I would get £130 worth of Toys R Us vouchers which would be enough to buy a cot mattress as well as a more practical swing/bouncer and probably a few other little bits too...the more I think about it, the more tempted I am but I don't want to offend him...what would you do?

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I think I'd just be honest with him and tell him that while your delighted with such a really lovely gift you actually do need some.necessities first and would he mind if you swapped it.
I doubt he'll mind, I'm sure had he known he would have bought something more practical I think sometimes men panic and end up buying the latest gadget because they just don't know what else to get. Hopefully if your honest he won't take any offence and he'll be happy for you to change it x

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Well if you are not planning to have a baby shower. Because swings also come in handy. Then I would say just to return it and get the mattress. You can always buy the swing later down the line.

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I doubt he'll mind. Men have different minds than women. I wouldn't say anything unless he asked. He shouldn't get offended, as long as the money went to baby, as intended.

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Why don't you just talk to him about the reality of the situation.  Just be like dad I love you but my baby needs stuff other than a giant swing. I need this this and this. He's your dad. My dad is totally wrapped around my finger so if I say I want something he's getting it.  Maybe not at that exact moment but he will find a way to get it for me.

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My dad isn't very involved either other than Sendin me a check on my birthday so this would be my feeling on it.

He didn't ask what you needed therefore if you are able to exchange it for things you will use then do it! If he says anything later down the line explain why. Also some babies ( my first) hate the swing. So what if you don't exchange it and baby comes and won't use it and now you have this huge item taking up space that you can't take back cause it's too late. Get what you need. These babies cost too much and you know what you need more then he does.

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Talk to him he probably won't mind.

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