How to feel after an ectopic pregnancy?

Question

About 3 months ago I found out I was 7 weeks pregnant! My husband and I were thrilled as we had been trying for 10 months and it finally had worked! A week later I started having horrible pains and sweats. I felt so bad I had to leave work early and was rushed to the hospital. I was in the emergency room for 3 hours before they had finally told me they thought it was an ectopic pregnancy and I needed to be rushed to surgery ASAP! Luckily my whole family was there and by that time everyone knew what was going on. I ended up not going into surgery until 5 hours later and that was around 9pm. I woke up the next morning covered in bloody bandages, my husband sleeping in the cot next to me and I was completely HEART BROKEN😔 I have not really been able to get over what happened and I'm not sure I know how to.. We are finally starting back up again and I am a nervous wreck! What can I do to not be so worried all the time that the same thing isn't going to happen again? I'm so nervous about it, it almost makes me not want to start again. I know not starting again won't get me anywhere, I just don't want the same thing to happen again and I don't want to feel this way again!😕

Answer

Big hugs to all of you. I too suffered an ectopic a few months ago. I was fortunate in that it was caught very early and I was treated with methotrexate so I didn't need surgery. My husband and I weren't really trying to conceive at the time so the whole thing was a whirlwind - shocked, then thrilled (we want to have children) then scared and very disappointed. Waiting for my hCG to go down was awful, I had to get my blood drawn every 3 days for a month. I had to wait 3 months after my hCG went down to zero so my husband and I are just starting to try now. I too am very scared of going through this miserable experience again.

My doctor has recommended that I get an HSG test (an imaging procedure) to take a better look at my tubes. I'm due to get it after I get my next period.  Has anyone else had this?

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I am on this road as well. We were trying for 8 months. I didn't need my tube removed but they don't know how damaged it was and that's making me nervous. I'm still waiting for my Hcg to zero out it's a terrible feeling and thinking of trying again just makes me cringe. And I feel this guilt like we told my partners parents and I felt ashamed. It was strange to feel that way.

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I felt exactly the same after my ectopic, I lost right right tube during surgery after finding out it had ruptured over a week previous.. they found my ectopic late, this was in March and still now I struggle with the fear of it happening again, I worry about only having one tube and that decreasing my chances but also only having one tube which I want to stay healthy.. the fear has faded slightly, the emotional and psychical pain has to ease and then I felt my fear decreased.. I'm sorry for your loss, and hope and prayers for this long and painful journey 💞

How to feel after an ectopic pregnancy?

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