What should I do?

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So my boyfriend and I have been having some issues lately and a few days ago we were talking and I was asking him why he wanted me and why he wanted me to stay. I asked him what he was attracted to in me. And he said. I'm emotionally attracted to you but I'm not physically attracted to you. You're just rough around the edges, you just need to go to the gym. We've been together over two years and he's just now saying this. What should I do??

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I'm sorry but that's a shallow answer when you love someone is doesn't matter what they look like my husband is hot no matter what he can gain 50 lbs or lose 50 i don't care seriously and what does he look like I bet he isn't no brad Pitt smh

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If he already thinks that after two years what will he say after ten?  I think this is one is not meant to last.

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Eat healthy and go to the gym!!!! That's what I do when my hubby make comment like that. And i appreciate his honesty,  i rather here it from my loved one at home than have some ppl talk behind my back! We go to the gym together after vacations :)))) i have a sweet tooth but he lets me know when its time to slow down :) but situations and relationships different from couple to couple so it is for you to decide what to do.  Oh and when we started ttc we talked about it  , he understands that I might gain a lot but he will support me on my way to recovery afterwards.  Good luck

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I'd appreciate the honesty, but that doesn't mean you have to appreciate the answer. I personally wouldn't stay with someone if they had said I'm a little "rough around the edges" when it came to my appearance. What if something medically happened where you gained a lot of weight knowing that this is how he feels about you now? Just something to consider.

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That's very hard to go about.... I'm so sorry to hear that. If it's been that long you guys have been together how could he be just emotionally attracted to you and not physically . So weird how guys work, seriously. He could have went around it a different way. Maybe you can first tell him how you feel and also ask him if he could start eating healthier with you and go with you to the gym. If you feel very uncomfortable doing this and really hurt (which I would be as well) I would say maybe you should take a break from him and show him that you could find someone who is interested and attracted to you for who you are! You stay positive girl!

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I guess I'd be happy he was honest, but would wish it was a little less blunt. I would see if he would be will to go to the gym or on walks with you and help you eat healthier. Meaning, he can't bring in a bunch of junk and has to help be supportive.

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I see it as constructive criticism. Yeah he could have done it differently like 'hey babe, I got us a gym membership' also don't take it super negative he can be your gym partner and there's some more bonding time. The gym is the only thing my guy & I have in common/.

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I never understood why people ask these questions. My bil said his girlfriend asks him this and he tells her he's not going to lie so she needs to be prepared for whatever answer he gives. How important are looks to you? Is his personality so sparkling that you can forgive him for giving you an answer you would so happy with?

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