When me and my husband have sex I'm usually the first one the have an orgasm and after that i m done and even stop before he finishes ... am I being selfish for that

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Would it be okay with you if every time you had sex he came and you didn't and he just hopped off? I doubt it. Why don't you keep going until he does? You could be missing out on multiple orgasms. Is there a real reason or do you just not care if he gets to orgasm?

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We get mad when men stop before we finish (we call them aelfish), so the same applies to us. If you feel discomfort after orgasm, perhaps offer him oral sex or a hand job so he can get off as well.

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YES!!! He must be a very patient and tolerant man..

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If you are saying that as soon as you orgasam you are done having sex, then yes it's absolutely selfish.

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I'm trying to figure out if you're saying the orgasm stops before he finishes or that you stop having sex before he finishes. If it's the former... My husband always does me first then we do him. Works well for us. If it's the latter, that's really selfish. If the roles were reversed you'd be upset.

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My husband usually gets off before me, so I usually end up finishing myself off with a little self serve. I usually don't mind, but every so often, I wouldn't mind if he'd finish me before he went about his business.

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I usually get mine before him too, however, we usually keep going. And I have two to his one, at least! Anyway don't be selfish... If you feel done then try bringing in some toys or have him go back down. But it really is selfish

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You should compromise. For example once I've finished I still let him go, even if Im no longer feeling it, and he's a big snuggler but he lets me get cleaned up and dressed and then snuggle since Im done, which we compromised from because if it were him we'd stay naked and snuggle and he would still fondle . But it's give and take, still let him be satisfied

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Honestly, yes that's incredibly selfish. He gets you there, so I would think he deserves to get there himself. It's about the journey, not just the destination. My husband makes sure to get me there at least once before he's done, so I think it's just common courtesy that I stay with it long enough for him to finish. Plus it's still enjoyable.

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It is a little selfish but I can understand. After sex , my fiancé likes to cuddle and feel on my breast but after I've came , I am no longer in the mood. I got what I wanted. It sounds bad , but that's just how my body is. After sex , I'm not horn anymore so it doesn't turn me on or even feel good like it did before I came. So I completely understand.

When me and my husband have sex I'm usually the first one the have an orgasm and after that i m done and even stop before he finishes ... am I being selfish for that

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