Second baby blues?

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Wonder if anyone else is feeling this way? Starting to feel guilty about having this baby. It has been hard for me to feel the same bond I did with my daughter from the moment I knew she was inside me. I was in a different situation as a single mom with her and for six years it's been me and her. I love her so very much! She's my mini me lol. Now I am married and pregnant I just don't feel the same. Worried I won't love the baby the same, it won't need me as much and my daughter will feel neglected. I don't want to favor one child, I feel like a horrible person and too guilty to  tell my husband. I know he would be offended. Please tell me this feeling goes away!

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I am in the same boat! Have you had your baby yet? And if so can you update us on this topic and how it's been going for you?

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I'm in the exact same boat, but what we are feeling is totally normal. Just trust in the fact that Mamas' hearts are meant to expand more than you thought possible, and that even though it's hard to know now because we haven't experienced it yet, life with two will change for the best. The one that benefits the most from a second baby anyway is the first child, because they get a friend for life. ❤️ Try to relax and just focus on your first child as much as you can for now! 😊 but you are not alone feeling this way.

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This baby is precious and deserves your love just as much as your first one did. It's different, but definitely there.

I actually found it easier to bond with my second daughter. There were different situations. Ex: I knew what to expect so I felt more confident. I had more responsibilities at work and dove head first into that. I wasnt as sleep deprived in early infancy because I chose to adapt with what worked for us without as much guilt. We didn't have drama with his family trying to destroy our marriage or pretend they're "all about family" and my husband still falling for their crap. At times, I was a single mom. By the time my daughter was two months old we had already separated. (Helped strongly by his parents.) My daughter and I have been through the ringer. At times I felt guilty for being excited about the new baby or pulling out her old clothes. I'm 7 weeks pp and it's still an adjustment at times. I freaked out a bit in the beginning thinking about how I was going to manage two kids when my husband went back to work, but it's worked out. I love being a family of four and I'd still love another child. I do compare my girls, but not competitively. It's not like one is better. They're both my sweet angels and you'd be surprised how much love you have for each of your babies.

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I feel you. I feel selfish and guilty for wanting #2. I'm scared I won't love the baby the same because I love my son so so much. I've been having a hard time with my emotions and thinking too much about the past.

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I felt the exact same way when I was pregnant with my second.  It did go away for me but I too was a single mom with my first and it was a HUGE change going from calling all the shots to actually having to listen to another person.

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