Was I wrong?

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Okay, so my grandpa (mom's side) passed away when she was 18. I was born 3 years later so I never met him but I was named after him...his name was Jack and they called him "Jackie" for a nickname and that's my name. He meant a lot to my family and it makes me sad that I never met him. He passed away on October 27th 1988 so he passed on the 27th and this will be the 27th anniversary of his death. I'm due with my first little boy on November 14th but I delivered my girls 2-3 weeks early. It will also be a full moon on October 27th and both of my girls were coincidentally born on nights of full moons. I keep thinking my baby boy will come on the anniversary of my grandpa's passing and somehow that brings me comfort and makes me feel as though he's with me even though I never had the privilege of meeting him. Well, I brought this up to my mom and her response caught me off guard. She was very short and cold with me and said it was a "morbid thought" to think he'd come on the anniversary of his passing. Was I wrong? I truly don't know. I feel like I had good intentions but I guess I could see where it would not be okay to say that now after the fact. Her reaction really hurt me though :/

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My due date is the day my husbands mother passed away. We say that our baby was sent to us by his mom.

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You aren't wrong and I understand where you are coming from. My mother in law passed away this year in February and now our first baby is due that same exact day in February 2016. She was the one who would have been most excited to meet our daughter so it made me tear up a little bit when I heard my due date. I told an older woman I know about it, and she told me that in her culture, they believe that if babies are born on the death anniversary of a loved one, it means they have a special connection and have already met each other. Depends on what people believe in or not, but it made me smile and feel comforted nonetheless. ❤️

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Oops, I clicked "you were wrong" but meant to click "your mom is overreacting"

Everybody handles grief in a different way. Some people will find comfort on the anniversary of someone's death and some will do anything to not think about it.

I wouldn't let it bother you...if it is special to you, that's what is important!

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People handle grief in different ways. I was really hopeful to get pregnant in July so I would have my baby around my eldest brothers birthday ( he passed away in 2010) my hubby thought that was super weird, but my sister thought it would be sweet to have something to celebrate that day. Its just one person's opinion and how they're dealing with things.

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Everybody handles death differently, and because of that I don't think either of you are right or wrong. It was insensitive of her to react that harshly but at least you now know to share things like that with your best friends instead.

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I pressed the wrong one. I think it's great way of thinking. I always thought it would b a good think for a celebration not of a death but of his life n the new bundle of joy Iv brought in to the world, if u no wat I mean. Don't let it bother u wat anyone else think it's down to wat u feel

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My daughter was born on her great-grandfathers birthday and it was her grandfather was happy that there was a happy memory on that day to ease the sadness of his dad's passing. Your mom is dealing with her own issues the best she can. Be understanding but know it's not on you.

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I don't think you are wrong. I am a believer of celebrating those moments. My husband and I got married on the anniversary of my grandmothers passing 12-13-14.

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I was pregnant with my second little girl when I lost my grandma.  I almost changed my babies name, to hers but decided against it.  Strangely enough, though neither my husband or I have blue eyes, my daughter has the same China blue shade of eyes her great grandma had, she also has all of the spunk.  
There is nothing wrong with what you said, your mom is probably just grieving a bit still.

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My grandfather dies a day before ny moms bday.and the day he passed awayyi found out i was pregnant with my son.my son was born on xmas day a day before my grandfather's bday(12-26).my son brought our family together because when he passed my mom and her siblings had a fall out. Its your baby and i name him whatever you want.

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