Today I am 34 weeks and 1 day pregnant. I've had my shower, I am almost done setting up my baby girls nursery, I am scrubbing my house top to bottom, and I have put away all of her tutus and onesies. This is my first baby  and as the weeks of her arrival are coming to an end, many people ask or assume what I will be doing as a mother. I've read some books on "what to expect..." and I've read reviews on products to assure I have proper knowledge on how to make sure I can be the best mom and to give her the best diapers, wipes, food, etc. Still, I find myself more on a " go with the flow approach" and it seems as though people cannot comprehend that response. Particularly when it comes to breastfeeding or bottle feeding. My thoughts? I have no idea. I know the benefits of breastfeeding (it's literally shoved down my throat every single day) but when I think about doing it or even see someone do it, I instantly do not feel comfortable with the thought of breastfeeding MY baby. I would like to try it out because of course, if it's more nutritious I'd like to do it, but I can't garauntee anything. And the minute I say "I can't garauntee" that's where the judgement moves in. The whole "you should" thing makes me want to scream! I don't even have my daughter in my arms yet and people think they have the right to tell me what to do. People may think they're giving advice but they're actually being rude. It's taking the joy out of being a first time mom and making decisions as her parent difficult and stressful. People also assuming I'm going straight back to work is another pet peeve of mine. And when I respond with "I'd like to be there for my child until the time comes for them to go to pre school", I hear, "oh well YOU SHOULD put your child in some sort of daycare so they can socialize." Excuse me? Do you think just because my child isn't going to daycare they're going to have issues? I have three cousins who just gave birth (4 kids total), there's plenty of child activity centers around my area, as well. I would never deprive my child of social interaction because they don't go to daycare. I didn't go to daycare and I was bottle fed and I turned out to be a great person. You know what I Should Do, though. I SHOULD be the best mother I know I WILL be to my child. I SHOULD be as comfortable as I need to be to make my child feel calm and safe. I SHOULD give the time that I am capable of giving to my child. Anyone that has an opinion on that, SHOULD keep their rude, inconsiderate, mouth shut because NO parent should be judged if they're doing everything they can to give their child the life they feel they deserve.