Planning a baby or go with the flow?

Question

My husband and I have made the process of having a baby very stressful! We plan just about every time we have sex and it's gotten to be a bit ridiculous! Do y'all say just go with the flow and enjoy each other or stick to our strict "conceiving" plan?

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I've done both and realized that going with the flow was much better for my husband and I. We've been trying for a little over a year and I just got my bfp. Going with the flow made it not stressful and we enjoyed sex. When we were planning it out we got stressed and ended up not enjoying sex. In the end we thought of it as our baby will be conceived in a time of passion instead of a forced situation.

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My husband and I were starting to conceive in January. We just went with the flow and had sex whenever we felt like it. I did some research and found out when I ' should' be ovulating. We tried until June with no luck. Maybe it was the leftover birth control hormones that I still had in my body, maybe it was god saying ''just wait.''

It wasn't until June that i found glow and I started tracking my period, and my cervical position and cervical mucous. I saw when I was suppose to ovulate and we baby danced before and after my most fertile time.

I got my BFP in July.

If one thing doesn't work for a bit, try another. It just may work!

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I stopped counting how many months we've been TTC... I think around 10. We went with the flow for a while and then I started tracking with my calendar and vitamins... Then apps and more vitamins... Then I wanted to make sure I was ovulating so opks came next and more vitamins... So it increased slowly. I tested with the opks for a couple of months and it became so stressful. I made myself a nervous wreck.  We talked about it last month when af showed and we decided enough was enough. This month I used what we had left of our opks but never hit peak and somehow I refrained and never went to buy more. My husband would love to have a baby but he doesn't want me to destroy myself in the process. I still track my periods/ fertile week and taking vitamins  I'm not making myself sick over it all. I think we're probably out this month... But somehow I'm at peace with the way we're doing things now. It will happen when and if its supposed to... We just have to have faith.

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I agree with the others. Our first was a "go with the flow" and happened the first unprotected night. Now we've been trying 4 mos for our 2nd, and it's causing so much stress and anxiety! I'll keep tracking but I we're going to ease up. The baby should come from love and happiness, not stress and calculation (if we can help it). :-) Good luck!

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We decided to just do whatever whenever and ended up pregnant first cycle... We were never actively trying we just weren't preventing with the hope of fallen pregnant.

I didn't keep an eye on fertile week or anything - did the deed 2 times a week :)

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go with the flow..... don't make it a chore cuz it will get stressful and it will take longer

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Goin with the flow! 
I'm not religious, but hubs says he's leaving it to God. If it's meant to happen, it will.

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My husband and I did the same thing for for 13 months. It got to be very stressful. For the past 3 months we are going with the flow. Hopefully it works!

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