Engagement rings!?!?

I've never been a very "girly girl" per say, so I've never wanted a big diamond on my hand. My SO and I have looked at rings so I could show him what I like and everyone (including jewelers) expect me to like a big solitaire, but I kinda find them gaudy. I would much rather have a 3 stone that is set lower, I don't really care carat size as long as it's modern and clean looking.