Need some marriage advice please... Long post...

He's been into comic books recently and will work on them from the minute he gets home until bed. Fine. He has ADHD and gets obsessed with projects (luckily the last one was redoing our yard, and it looks great)

Anyway, when I come home, every single day I immediately will make our bed, let the dog out, feed him and the cats, clean up the house, wipe down counters, get groceries if needed, do laundry, etc before I even pee. Its just something I feel I have to do before I relax.

Last night was trash night, and my job is to get all of the trash ready and put it in the bin, and he rolls it to the driveway. Not hard. He has it made here. Comes home and sits on the couch, doing his comics and I say, hey since you're already in here I put the trash in front of the door, can you please take it out soon so it doesnt smell? He says, hangon. An hour goes by, I ask him again. Snaps that I'm being a nag and leave him alone, and thay he cleaned the basement last weekend and I dont appreciate it and I should do things myself if I want them done. Sorry, I tell him, but I said thanks for that but Im not going to give you a metal for cleaning your own house. We each have jobs, and I clean our entire house every single week. He then tells me I do "nothing at all", not even 1% of what he does. 

He's out of his mind if he truly thinks this and obviously I am going to start listing off what I DO do and he says "just seriously stop, leave me alone!!"

Fast forward to tonight, we were talking and okay.. He lets the dog out even though I said I already did and now its pouring rain out. When the dog comes back in, I'm doing laundry, and he is SOAKED. I say, hey! Hes all wet can you wipe him down?

His response: if you want it done do it yourself! Stop being lazy and expecting me to fucking do everything! 

Honestly I am so annoyed and upset with him. I do so much for our house and don't ask for much in return besides him not messing it up and expecting me to clean after him. His excuse is, if I dont like his clothes on the floor, I should just pick it up and stop nagging. I am not his maid!

Please help. I want to punch him. I would never, but when this happens I truly wish I lived by myself, or with someone who actually picked up after themselves and contributed; had some pride of ownership. 😞