Only clean when he's away

Can I get some input .. I'm not the best at keeping my house clean 24/7.. I'm so tired all the time with kids and school that I sometimes let the dishes stay there for more than 3 days and toys everywhere .. Laundry piles up .. But everytime my husband goes out of town I get in a good mood and somehow find energy and clean everything ! It happen everytime I don't get it ..