Does anyone else feel this way?

Question

Both at church and at school (BYUI), immediately following, "Do you have any kids?" everyone asks, "How long have you been married?" 
It's like they're trying to decide whether or not they can judge me for "not wanting" kids or if they'll let it slide if they don't think my marriage is  long enough, yet. 
Anyone else?

Answer

I once read a story about a couple that was struggling to conceive and they got sick of being asked the question over and over about when they would have kids. They started to respond by saying "hopefully 9 months from this morning 😉". Maybe that will get people off your back. Or at least make them uncomfortable for asking, haha.

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I don't mind as much people asking "do you have any kids?" But I disgusted when people say "oh just have a baby already!" Married for almost 5 years, but I'm only 25! I feel so young! Let me live my life and you live yours!

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We live in rexburg too and I get that question all the time!! I'm a host at Applebee's and as soon as people see my ring they ask how long I've been married and if I have kids. I hate the look I get when I say no. Or not yet. I just want to be like I'm sorry is it a serious sin to have been married 3 yrs and have no kids?! Not to mention I have endometriosis so we've been trying over a year with no luck so not only is it rude but it hurts my heart when I get those nasty looks.

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My husband and I get this all the time in church. But everywhere else (we live in Los Angeles) when people find out I'm married at 25 people ask me if I have any kids, implying that we got married because I was pregnant. So when I answer I don't have kids they are relieved. BYU is such a bubble, just remember that the decision to have kids is between you, your husband, and Heavenly Father.

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We've been married for 5 years today and have no kids. People ask all the time. I politely tell them that A it is none of there business I am sorry, B If I couldn't have kids, I am sure you'd feel pretty bad right now, it wouldn't be something that I would talk about and that is an extremely rude question for that reason.

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Okay I am guilty of asking those questions. Or has nothing to do with judgment or accusing them of not wanting children. I am just curious and interested when getting to know others. I never thought it would be offensive.

Does anyone else feel this way?

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