Donor sperm

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Tracy
Anyone else dealing with azoospermia and needing a donor to have a child? It has been a really challenging road and I'd love to hear from someone who can relate.
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We hv used donor sperm to conceive. And finally, after about 5 years of infertility and failed iuis, 2 rounds of IVF, we've finally become pregnant on our 3rd round. We decided before we started conceiving, that we'd want anonymous donor sperm. Our decision to go anonymous was simply because this would be our child, regardless of DNA, we may choose to tell our children, but I don't think it's necessary. We chose someone who was as close to physically, characteristically, and medically to my husband as possible. Plus, anonymous sperm is cheaper than open. My husband is an only child with his exact blood line, he has a half brother. We couldn't bring ourselves to ask friends, because that would be awkward in the long run.This is a very difficult decision to make, that I understand. Nothing was taken lightly. Good luck in making your decision.

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H • Nov 23, 2015
Questions answered and hesitation addressed. Rooting for you always and hope your pregnancy is going well!!!

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H • Nov 23, 2015
Thanks for sharing Hoa. I know we've followed each other through the process. My husband and I are going for round 3 using his sperm and if this doesn't work I think we'll look into donor sperm. It's a strong possibility. It's nice to be able to talk about it to make sure we have at least most of

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H • Nov 23, 2015
Hoa,

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We thought about this and still debating whether we should. 

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H • Nov 23, 2015
I'm in the same frame of mind Tracy. It's scary and hopeful.

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Hoa • Nov 18, 2015
((hugs)) to you, H.

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Tracy • Nov 18, 2015
what kind of questions are you dealing with? for my husband he doesn't really care known or anonomous. he knows we will bond and love the child either way. I am the one having so many questions about how the child might deal with this fact later in life. we don't want it to be a secret because it seems like teenagers have a tough time if they find out later. also how many possible siblings they could have.. it is really hard to imagine this different kind of family for me. I know once it happens it will be okay and we will love this child soo much! I'm a worrier tho and a planner. I need a plan. I wish you strength in your journey and peace with your decision.

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I can completely relate with you. Our first child was through donor sperm. We've been trying for #2 but having issues. Good luck :) 

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Jessica • Nov 19, 2015
And thank you for the well wishes... Iui tomorrow. I have 2 perfectly sized follicles so 🙏🙏🙏

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Jessica • Nov 19, 2015
We chose to use an anonymous donor. We picked someone that had features like my husband. Our son looks so much like him we forget all the time. We don't plan on telling him because he is ours either way and we love him. It's a lot to handle.. But I'm here for support for you and anyone else.

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Tracy • Nov 18, 2015
thanks for responding and sending the best of luck to you for #2! can I ask you some more questions about your experience? this has been really tough for us and I don't know anyone but you who has been through it. did you use someone you knew or anonomous? how do you plan to tell your children or are you at all? it is scary to me thinking about anonomous donation and I'm not sure I'm comfortable with it so it is driving me crazy waiting for my brother in laws answer.

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I can relate, but on the other end. We are doing ivf with donor egg. I'm at peace with it. I'll be carrying the baby, my blood will run through the placenta, I'll give birth and to me it is my baby. You have to find that peace. I wish you all the best. Please keep me posted. Good luck.

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T • Nov 18, 2015
my only advise is focus on you and what you are good with in your heart. not what others think. this in my opinion doesn't even need to be shared with anyone. we tried for so long, had a loss, had surgery and I just want a baby at this point. take as long as you need, this is your journey. keep me posted. I wish I had more advise. I'm here if you need to talk. please keep me poste, and maybe say a little pray for me. I Start my meds tonight.

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Tracy • Nov 18, 2015
I think that is a beautiful thing and when you really think about making a child it comes down to just that. doctors appointments can me feel like a science experiment and maybe it would help me to focus more on the beauty of conception. this is all pretty new to us..we found out in October and so I'm needing to wrap my head around all of the complexities of donation. are there any books or articles that helped you through? I search on the Internet but again it is a lot of negative stuff. I wish you lots of luck and also would love to hear updates!