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You shouldnt have even asked her that. Just do what you need to do and be supportive of her as well.
Just a little rant.
It really bothers me when someone tells me they'll be mad at me if I get pregnant before them, and their only reason is 'you're not married'.
Backstory;
I have a co worker who once upon a time told me she basically only got married because that's the only way she could get her now husband to agree to have kids, and so her parents would be 'ok' with her having kids. They haven't been together as long as I've been with my boyfriend either. She's wanted kids, but just recently started trying, whereas I have been trying for not quite a year. I asked her jokingly if she'd be upset if I got pregnant first. She said 'yeah, you're not married, why should you get pregnant first?' I literally did not know what to say. Sorry, I had to get this off of my chest.. Rant over, thank you.
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I've learned from being on this app that it's very difficult for a lot of women to get prego naturally and some take it in a passive aggressive way towards other women whom get prego easily. I try to put myself in their shoes and try not to take anything they say personally. They are dealing with the possibility of not being able to conceive and it scares them to death. Perhaps, they may feels less of a woman and not being able to give their husbands a baby. Try to look at it from their shoes.
There's always going to be someone that acts like this. Brush it off, and if they do get mad when you get pregnant, cut them off. Believe me, you don't need negative people around while you're pregnant. I've learned the hard way.Also, I'm sorry, but no else's struggles give them a reason to be rude.
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Its completely rude to not congratulate someone, but instead get angry for something that has nothing to do with them. So it can be human nature, but its cruel and those kind of people don't need to be around other people if they can't say anything supportive or kind.
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It doesn't give them a right to be right to be rude but it's human nature.
So silly. I don't think you should be married yo hace kids, if you don't want to make a contract that doesn't mean you are not cominment to each other, but cut her some slack, maybe it wasn't personal, just her irational predjuices, and desire to have kids.
Ca
Honey, just because your sister's relationships didn't work and she decided to have kids doesn't mean it was a bad desision, or it was a mistake, don't let her get into your mind. I'm durr your sister is one happy woman, and you if you trust your man and love your child (wich is obvious) will be happy. Lonh story short, just be happy and wish her the best, everything will fall into place, even if it's different for both of you.
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I didn't say anything! And I won't either! It just really confused me because she's a close friend of my sister. And my sister has two kids before marriage, with two different fathers. I don't know, thinking about it, it makes me chuckle.
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