I have been with my boyfriend for several months now and in the beginning we took it really slow because even though I am 21, I have never been in a relationship or had sex. Over the past few weeks we both have discussed the possibility of having oral sex and sex. Should we start with oral and let that lead to sex, or start with sex and let it lead to oral? And do any of you have any helpful tips for performing oral sex on a man? I just want to be well prepared. I have been on birth control for several years so I am protected during sex for when the timing is right.