Not feeling connected?

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First time mom right here and I'll be 11 weeks tomorrow. I see everyone posting how much they love their baby. I just don't feel connected to him/her yet...... I guess maybe because it doesn't really feel real yet (even though I'm very sick and have had an ultrasound and saw baby). I have always wanted to be a mommy and I'm very excited for her/him to arrive! Anyone else feeling/felt this way?? Did you start to feel bonded with your baby when you could feel them kicking?

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With my first baby honestly I didn't have a connection until I really felt the baby kick. But when he was born it was not love at first sight like how everyone claimed it to be. It took me a couple of days until I was in love. So don't worry. Everyone is different

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Do worry that's completely normal I didn't have a connection to my daughter until she was born. Even after I could feel the kicking it was nice but it still felt like an alien or something. But when I have birth and they laid her on my chest I literally felt like someone took out my heart and put it on me.

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I agree completely. I'm 13 weeks and do not feel connected or in love like a lot of people on here post! I think it's normal. No doubt you things will change when he/she arrives (if not before) and you will love that little person like crazy!

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Honestly I've been so sick there are some days I don't even CARE I'm pregnant anymore.  Not to say I'm not thrilled and extremely excited for the baby to be here but I was very unprepared for how tough of a time I would have and it makes it so hard to be excited when all I long for is one day where I don't throw up. But I started my second trimester today so I'm feeling hopeful the barfing until I pee my pants stops and the blissful feelings can kick in soon!

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I'm so glad you posted this it makes me feel so much better! I've always wanted to be a mom and I've had baby fever for over a year! I don't know why I'm not more excited, it may be because I'm kind of sick/not feeling like myself.. I hope it'll change once I start feeling better! Or maybe once we've told everyone.

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Im 14 weeks and a firat time mom. I dont feel like a mom yet and I do feel connected yet, but I do feel protective and attached.

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I don't have any connection or emotions yet... Maybe because I'm in school ,which is highly stressful , and my fiancé and I weren't trying at all...careful and everything . I've heard it happens gradually as you see your tummy grow and once you see your baby. 😊

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I think that's normal! When I was having my first baby (this is my second) I was terrified. Even after I had her every one was saying you have this insane rush of love and nothing like that happened for me. When we were finally on our own at the hospital no daddy no doctors it happened then and I couldn't put her down - you don't know what to expect don't be worried by that. Good luck xxx

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This is my 2nd pregnancy. I was SO connected in love happy excited ect with my first. With this one it has been TOTALLY opposite. I don't feel connected at all a lot of days I feel guilt. This pregnancy has also been totally different. Sick ect.. I'm hoping its normal as well! Good luck mama we are doing the best we can.

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Thank you everyone! You made me feel so much better!!!!!!! 💞💞💞💞💞

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