Ugh. Fight with S.O.

Here I was thinking my S.O.  Was being so understanding I haven't been getting much done around the house. He's been (seemingly) so patient, until today when we got into a huge fight about it. It doesn't help that I already have a tough time with this in general because I get anxious and overwhelmed about organizing to the point I think it's a condition. I am so upset. Why is it so hard to make them understand? My energy is kind of going towards growing a human!