I broke down!!!

And tested this morning. I got a bfn and I'm 14dpo. Af isn't due until the 16th Wednesday. I know it's 3 days away but I see all of these early bfp's every day and was hoping for the best this morning. And I know I'm not out until AF shows up, but at this point, I feel like it would be a Christmas miracle for a bfp. This was our 3rd iui and thought we got it right this time. Any words of encouragement or even a smack in the face to wake me up to realize it's not my month?