Is it okay to feel this way?

Question

Okay so I see all these girls saying that they are worried about being pregnant because they had unprotected sex.. But then these girls getting pregnant over and over than abortion... But I get upset because I just had a miscarriage... But yet they keep having babies getting rid of them. (Yes I know it may not be the right time for them, but still... )

I lost my baby in October. It was a surprise pregnancy.. I was 9 weeks pregnant I know that's not that far along but still.. And now my bf and I don't wear protection, and decided not to try if it happens it happens. He does pull out method but we arnt careful about pre cum. Pre cum got me pregant the first time... It's so hard, all I want is to be pregnant. But ugh... Am I stupid for feeling this way.. Every time I get my period I become heartbroken.

Answer

My own sister has had 5 kids from 5 different men. She had been pregnant more times than that and had multiple abortions if the guy wasn't wealthy enough. My mom is raising the two oldest boys, the next two live with their dads and she has the youngest that's only a few months old. I'm married, stable and have a 2 year old son whom I love with all of my heart. My husband and I have been trying since January.. We got pregnant in July and lost the baby at 14 weeks in October. I was (and still am) completely devastated and heartbroken. Sometimes I feel like my sister is trying to help when she says 'oh it'll happen again soon' or 'it just wasn't meant to be'. But I look at her and think 'your children are accessories to you! I didn't lose a designer bag. I lost a child.' I hate feeling that way, but I can't help it. Since we started trying again, she has told me 'stop trying and it will happen. Stop focusing on it or you'll never  get pregnant'. She never TRIED for any of her kids. She just happens to be fertile myrtle. I love my sister, but she will never understand the pain.

Answer

I had 3 miscarriages before I had my son and then I had a stillborn at 24 weeks and finally pregnant again. Pregnancy has been very hard for me and it is a struggle. But then I know girls that had multiple abortions in the same year and then having a baby and not even raise her. It is frustrating that it comes so easily for some people. It is ok to feel annoyed and angry sometimes. But it is not ok to be so caught up in those feelings and have it control you. Good luck to you and baby dust!

Is it okay to feel this way?

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