Let it go or say something next time?

Question

My husband and I have two friends that are a couple. We got married in April 2015, they got engaged a couple months after we got married. They are getting married in May 2016.

We love this couple. We hang out with them almost 2 times every week.

Well something has been bothering me for quite sometime now but I've been letting it go but now it's just exploding.

The couple has grown up with money. They have never had to really struggle. My husband and I on the other hand have always struggled but we also know how to budget so that we still have what we need.

The girl has like some kind of attitude towards us about money. When something gets brought up into conversation, she always says something like "Can you afford to do that?" Or "Wouldn't you be broke?"

She's done that since the start of our friendship. But the thing is...she doesn't know how much we make or how much we have in bills...she's just assuming that because we are entertainers, and they are teachers that they have more money.

The situation that really pushed me over the edge was the other night at Christmas, my husband and I were talking about our infertility and how bad we were just ready to have a baby and she said they were planning on having a baby as soon as they get married and her exact words were "It shouldn't be hard for us."

And then, oh and then she said "Do you really think you guys can afford a baby right now?"

Ugh!

Do you guys think I should just let it go or say someyhing?

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Omg you need to say something. Call her out in front of her husband. But be as nice as pie; a smiling assassin. Say something like "thank you for your concern but we are more than able to........" or "why do you assume we are always struggling with finances?"
Time to get this sorted! I'd be pissed

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Why is she so concerned about what you can or can't afford? It's not like y'all are asking them for money. I would tell her in a light mannered way not to worry about it, y'all will be fine. Or, turn it around on her...ask if she's sure SHE can afford it every time they get ready to do something. She'll get the hint. I'm not sure what kind of teachers this girl and her husband are, but I find it laughable that she acts like she is rich or something...where I live, a teacher with a bachelors degree makes $12/hr. I work in a county jail and make more than that.

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u should say something. she sounds insensitive and somewhat rude

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First of all nobody except you and your husband should comment on your finances. I had some annoying friends as well. I cut the contact when they started interfering bit much. I want positive things in my life. Of course this is my view point but you can try to resolve it by talking to that lady. Not saying anything is not standing up for yourself.

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I would say something, but at that same time I would not stoop to her snotty level. Be the bigger woman and say something like " thank you for your concern but we are just fine...etc"

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I would definitely say something to her. You could say something like, "I am sure that you're not meaning to hurt anyone's feelings or offend anybody but I want you to know that when you say things like that it makes me feel bad." You can tell her that you think maybe she's just concerned about you guys, but that she doesn't have to be and she can just feel free to be supportive as friends should.

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Tell her this "you know I understand your just looking out for us but when you say things like that you make us feel very bad. You don't know our financial situation. We are very god with money and if we can't afford something we will tell you. I feel like your rubbing it my fave that we have less than you sometimes and your really starting to hurt my feelings." Don't get mad and go off just say how you feel calmly. She is being a brat but I don't think she knows any better.

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You are so much better then me cause I would have been went off on her , she is shooting to many slugs and talking about you really.

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I wouldn't hesitate to speak up.

Let it go or say something next time?

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