Am I alone? It's all getting too much

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I am really struggling with a lot of things at the moment.
1. I hate the way my body looks. I've stopped exercising now and I have now got a gut (not a baby just fat flab) that i dont undress in front of my partner.

2. The thought of having sex with my partner makes me sick. Everything he does (which is nothing wrong) annoys the crap out of me. He doesn't deserve it but I honestly can't help it.

3. I've started sleeping in the spare room to get a good nights sleep and to get away from him.

4. Even though this was 100% planned and all i have ever dreamed of i am not one bit excited. I can't horse ride, surf, wake board, snow board, rock climb...NOTHING! My life has already changed by eat this don't eat that...do this don't do that and my partner doesn't understand why I am down in the dumps.

We have recently moved for his job and into a new state in Australia and i know no one. I have left my friends and job behind. I can't do anything for me anymore because i can't do any of my normal activities. Needles to say i feel terrible...does this feeling stop?

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Girl I'm with you on numbers 1, 2, and 4. I sleep next to my husband still even though I toss and turn because I can feel his heartbeat and it calms me down but other than that I get it. Everyone I know has said they felt the same way, even when it was planned. It's a difficult transition and I don't think women give themselves enough credit for what they have to go through. Your hormones and moods will be up and down, and from what family and friends have shared with me they felt much better a few weeks into their second trimester. I promise you're not alone with your feelings, they are normal. Do whatever you need to make yourself happy and come here whenever you need to! That's what this is for :)

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I hear you with being annoyed. I am on baby #6 and the sound of people eating drives me crazy. I hear every lip smack and chew!?!  Hopefully as you get past the morning sickness you will feel more up to sex and exercise helps me a ton!  I've been super sick this time but on the days I workout I feel a bit better. Be patient with yourself and your partner. I was crazy with my first and let's just say it almost ruined my marriage!  So with my second and since I try really hard to be kind even when I don't want to. I can't imagine anything worse for me than being alone with a baby and my sweet husband has really pulled out the stops for treating me like a queen when he sees I'm trying really hard to think of him even when I'm feeling like crap!  Good luck!

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This is me to a T!!! Even sleeping in a spare room (he moves too much & our room smells awful). AND I have the worst morning (aka all day sickness). It makes me just want to cry, I hate feeling so sick all the dang time. I'm hoping once I get to 12 weeks that my stomach starts settling down. I think that will help with a lot of things, including feeling more excited ❤️

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I can relate to everything you posted! Let me tell you from experience, it gets better! You described my first pregnancy and by no means was it easy in fact it was so hard on me mentally I Contemplated abortion ... But I had to remind myself daily that it's what we planned for and its going to be fine and once I started to talk to other woman about pregnancy and asked them to be completely honest with me on how they truly felt while pregnant I started to feel better when they admitted they hated it like I did lol then I didn't feel alone... If you ever need someone to talk to I'm here! And this is our second baby and yes, it has not been easy at all but I kno I got through it before and I can do it again! Ps my hubby works for the government so being away from friends and family sucks! But you'll be fine once your little one is here!

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I feel the same way. Im going through all of that but sleeping in a different room. I got a flabby, fat gut. Lost abs. Its not a "baby bump." Its gross. My size 4s dont fit and i live in leggins and baggy shapeless sweaters. I miss my tight clothes, small boobs, abs, jeans, lifting heavy, pooping every day, and not feeling like a complete disgusting piece of garbage. I hate changing or undressing in front of my husband. Its disgusting. Im disgusting. My reflection makes me want to vomit and cry

Weve been trying for 3 years for a baby so i should be over the moon, right?

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It does stop. Don't worry, it's completely normal. Just know that hormones are a real thing and they can make you feel like the world is ending. Be patient with your husband and don't be too hard on yourself. It does get better and you will return to your normal self one day soon, I swear!

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I was feeling this way too for a little bit. However, mantainig my excersice routine has helped tremendously. Even though i've become flabby and untoned, i still feel good about myself if i restrict calories and exercise regularily. And as long as i feel good about myself, my mood raises, along with my tolerance. When i feel attractive, my husband appears more attractive. I think excersice is very important to maintain, especially if your used to being active! Even low impact cardio videos on youtube are better than nothing. Good luck:)

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It sounds to me like you really need a support system. Moving away from all your security is probably contributing to how you feel because you have no one to talk to about it. See if you can connect with a local FB group of mommies or mommies to be. Explore your new community and try to make connections/friends. 💖 Hugs to you.

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Totally relate! Annoyed at poor hubby plus I miss taking long hot baths, drinking coffee, playing sports, etc. plus moving is a huge transition by itself much less when youre pregnant. Poor you. Hope you can find new friends soon-- for example in mommy type group activities.

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I hope it stops for you. I'm sure you could still do some activities and exercises but just not as strenuous? 
What state are you living in now? I'm an Aussie... I live in the Pilbara region in WA.

Am I alone? It's all getting too much

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