I've been working in Child Support for many years. I help 100s of families and see 1000s of different situations...I see a lot of women's response to posts on here about sorry men or men that refuse to help is "File for Child Support." From someone who basically deals with this more than I deal with my own problems...My only advice to you ladies would be "Never depend on a Man's Child Support to take care of your kids." If the Child Support was to stop and you could no longer take care of and supply your kid's needs, your not doing the best you can!!! Here's the problem..Those checks may stop at anytime. We can't dictate certain things that happen in life...Men loose jobs, Men go to jail, Men get hurt, Men get sick, Men die, Men disappear andare nowhere to be found...Then what??? Make a life for your children on your own and use that child support as insurance! It's a backup! Yeah it would be great to get it on schedule every month but unfortunately 60% of these men I have to hunt down like I'm a damn bounty hunter and the next 20% don't make enough money to even pay the light bill so your left with about 20% of these Men that actually are able to help substantially. Plus it ruins co-parenting relationships. In the 10 years I worked in Child Support I can count on 2 hands the # of happy families that have been in my office. Imagine what those kids go through...Just food for thougt...